Life does not have a fast forward button otherwise people would be all over looking for the most successful teenager when he is a year old. The odds that you will succeed are very low, in fact, no one thinks you will succeed. The reasons for such thoughts are the things that you do. Here are some of the things you do that lead to such damage.
1. You push off responsibility
Accept full responsibility for everything that happens in your life. Do not blame others. Do not blame circumstances. Do not blame what you lack and definitely do not blame your luck! You will always have choices to make in every situation, and these choices will always have consequences. Take responsibility. Make the right choices, because they will either steer you that bit closer to your goals, or away from them. Success is nothing but a series of all the right choices you make. If you want something, got get it yourself. You are in charge. Period.
I am the master of my fate; I am the captain of my soul. ~ William Ernest Henley
2. You procrastinate
Understand the cost of being a procrastinator. It is like a credit card. You have a lot of fun while at it, but wait until you get the bill. Procrastination is deadly. I do not care what your reason for procrastinating is; The Law of Diminishing Intent states that if you do not take action soon after the idea strikes you and the emotion is high, fairly soon the urgency starts to diminish. In addition, the longer you wait, the less likely you will ever get the job done. Start by making the decision to declare war on your procrastination devil. By just being aware that you need to be at an endless battle with this devil, you are already ahead of the majority.
Procrastination is one of the most common and deadliest of diseases and its toll on success and happiness is heavy. ~ Wayne Gretzky
3. You are a perfectionist
Perfection does not exist. It is only a great excuse not to get started. Do your best; strive to be good; strive to become better than you were yesterday; but forget perfection because if your work truly matters to you, you will never ever reach that state anyway. Also, stop waiting for the ideal moment or the ideal plan. It will never happen; if it does, something is bound to go haywire along the way. You just need to get started then do it again tomorrow, and the day after. Your dreams will never come to fruition if you are preparing and waiting around. They will if you apply and take massive action.
Do not wait; the time will never be ‘just right.’ Start where you stand, and work with whatever tools you may have at your command, and better tools will be found as you go along. ~ Napoleon Hill
4. You are afraid of criticism
If you are going to be achieving anything great, expect tons of criticism and haters. Learn to handle them. Learn the kind of criticism you should accept and the kind that you should discard. Not all criticism is of use. In any case, you should not let the fear of criticism stop you from doing what you have to do. You do not have to please everyone as it is a sure route to failure. This is your mission. This is your life. Let us do this.
To avoid criticism say nothing, do nothing, be nothing. ~ Aristotle
5. You are afraid of failure
Do things for success, but expect failure along the way. Failure is necessary. Failure is a life lesson designed to bring out the best in you. If you are too afraid to fail, then do not start. It is okay to have some fear, but do not be too discouraged when you do fail; it is not about how many times or how big you fall, it is about how many times you are willing to get up and try again. How many times are these? I hope you answered that with, “as many times as it takes.”
It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all – in which case, you fail by default. ~ J.K. Rowling
6. You are darn lazy
If you are putting in the same amount of work as the people around you, consider yourself lazy. It is a competitive world, and if you want to stand out at all, then prepare yourself mentally and work two times harder than everyone else. If others work five hours, you work seven. Work your butt off. It pays. Furthermore, forget all your partying.
Formula for success: rise early, work hard, strike oil. ~ J. Paul Getty
7. You lack originality and creativity
You are already lazy. It is not any better that you are doing the same thing everyone else is doing. You need to be unique if you want to stand out as well; be original and get those creative juices flowing. Dare to be different from the crowd. You can get ideas and inspiration from others. You can even copy to a certain extent, however, in the end, be your authentic and genuine self. People are dying to see the unique you, and not another copycat.
Trusting your individual uniqueness challenges you to lay yourself open. ~ James Broughton
8. You play it solo
We humans were biologically designed to flourish together. Success does not come by our self. There’s a reason why we like to say we “could not have done it without you” in the Oscars Academy Awards. It’s true. Do not be afraid to ask for help when you need it. Learn to genuinely connect with others and work together. Support one another. In the same way, help and offer value to others. You cannot expect to receive when you don’t give.
Coming together is a beginning; keeping together is a progress; working together is a success. ~ Henry Ford
9. You are ungrateful
Being grateful increases your level of happiness dramatically. You will be much better equipped to face life’s challenges when your natural state is full of joy, happiness, and gratitude. Happiness leads to success, and not the other way round. Start adopting an attitude of gratitude and if need be, keep a gratitude journal. Look around as you read this. I bet there’s at least one thing that would make life very different for you if you lost it. And make no mistake; this is not a chance for you to settle with what you have. Being grateful and settling are two very different things.
Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you, knowing that every step forward is a step toward achieving something bigger and better than your current situation. ~ Brian Tracy
10. You fail to learn from your mistakes
Along the way, you’re going to make a ton of mistakes. Accept them with humility. Those are some free life lessons. Approach every mistake you make as a special learning experience sent to teach you something valuable and necessary for your success in the future. Einstein says that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. Learn from your mistakes and do not repeat them.
Learning from your mistakes is an essential skill that enables you to develop the resilience to be a master of change rather than a victim of change. ~ Brian Tracy
11. You don’t believe in yourself
“He who says he can and he who says he can’t are both usually right” (Confucius). Drop all your self-limiting beliefs. If you want something with a strong enough passion, you will find ways to make the impossible happen. The only limits you ever set up for yourself are all in the mind. Change them. You are unstoppable. Dream big because you are destined for greatness. Believe that you will be a big success. You already have everything it takes to crush life. All you have to do right now is succeed.
When your desires are strong enough, you will appear to possess superhuman powers to achieve. ~ Napoleon Hill
12. You lack consistency
Consistency is crucial to your success. Develop the habit of showing up all the time, whether you feel like it or not. The pro doesn’t give himself excuses. He just gets the work done. Short bursts of fiery enthusiasm will not cut it. Come up with a system for yourself and make sure you stick with it. Deciding and succeeding to hit the gym four times a week is far more superior than deciding to hit the gym seven times a week and failing to execute three times. Yes, even when the outcome is the same, because you are training your mind to be weak by not doing what you say you will do. That weakness will rub off negatively on other areas of your life. Long-term consistency will always trump short-term intensity.
We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit. ~ Aristotle
13. You have stopped growing
Successful people understand that they need to sharpen their skills all the time. They understand that once they stop, they will fall behind the competition. They have made the decision early in the game to become excellent and the top in their field. The moment you stop growing and learning is the moment you truly fail. That includes your personal development and all other areas of your life. In fact, the moment you decide your level of personal development is enough that is when you become a failure of life.
(Adapted from many authors and philosophers)