When you look into those eyes, what do you see? By Mitchell Odhiambo
Communication is the lifeblood of every relationship. Keep those channels open to build a solid rock foundation and to fill the relationship with rare and beautiful treasures. When you look into your spouse’s eyes, what do you see?
Are you able to know their thoughts, their state of mind, and their feelings at that moment? Your goal should be to communicate with your spouse, to see through their eyes, hear through their ears, feel through their hearts and grow into one indivisible pair.
That, my friends, is a deliberate effort, it takes being very intentional to achieve it. It means keeping the love burning with date nights, appreciating one another for things that are done in your favor, confessing to one another your concerns, your worries and your fears, discussing your intimate life, your financial life and so forth.
This requires great vulnerability on both your parts and an understanding that no one from outside will come to build your union. You will both have to agree on a way of living and put together the building blocks to accomplish that.
I would never encourage anyone to hide issues from their significant other. Bring it out in to the open for discussion. Disagree on it if you will and together come to a solution to resoving the sticky issue at hand.
Should you notice something in your spouse’s eyes, ask about it and discuss it. Share their joys and dreams, and empathize in their sorrows whilst helping one another break through the limitations.
Until we speak again, I am your host Mitchell Odhiambo. Welcome to a man’s new world. Be sure to catch my colleague Mercy’s article below.
When you look into those eyes what do you see? By Mercy Karumba
We often say, the eyes are the windows to the soul, but do we actually use these “windows” for their rightful purpose? When you look into his/her eyes, what do you see?
Can you notice what makes her eyes glow? Do you notice when she feels like the queen that she is? Do you notice when she’s broken down and tired of life? Do you notice when she’s too anxious to even think straight? Can you recognise her fears?
Do you notice when he’s excited about his achievements and ambitions? Do you notice when he is low and his ego hurt? Can you notice when he cannot even look at you straight because he feels embarrassed or disappointed in himself?
It’s beautiful to read the moods, intentions and feelings of your significant other, just by looking at them. So many times, our actions deceive, so many times, we are afraid of expressing how we feel. But if that person who means so much to us is able to understand us in these moments, then that’s all we need to keep going. When you look into those eyes, what do you see?