Female Perspective on Online Dating By Lillian Sudi

I believe that every human being was born with an overwhelming need of feeling loved, appreciated and accepted. When you really think...


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I believe that every human being was born with an overwhelming need of feeling loved, appreciated and accepted. When you really think about it, we all want to love and be loved. We all want the same thing regardless of who we are. So you wonder why, in a world with millions of people sharing the same
need, we just cannot seem to find the right match for ourselves? Why sitting down and actually having a conversation with the people around us has
become so tedious that we instead, prefer to meet and have (tech) algorithms match us with suitable mates?

Technology has tried to expand our borders, now we can reach out to people all over the world from the comfort of our homes;  people we would have
otherwise never have had a chance to communicate with. We can now casually glance at strangers’ online profiles and decide who we want to talk to or indeed, chat with multiple candidates, all at a go. And the main reason why people have very much embraced the online dating scene is because we can reach out to a multitude of people  at our convenience and without exposing ourselves and leaving ourselves to face to face rejection (which is never easy).

My opinion is, while it may be true that online matching seems to make dating easy at first, the downside to this is that the relationship hardly ever has a sincere solid foundation.  It is very hard to meet a genuine soul online, and when you think about it…the ingenuity starts with us and the simple white lies we tell. From fake profile pictures to the highly filtered photos, false advertising is on another level when it comes to meeting people online because we can all
hide behind our computers and say we are anything, conveniently having the recipient believe it because they don’t have much to go by. Saying you are
something you are not however, results in a chain of lies to keep up the initial lie.

It seems exciting because all the people of the opposite sex around you seem dull and boring as compared to the lot you meet online but in my opinion, anyone can sound cool and exciting online. People will say what they want you to hear, they will put up photos that make them look like runway models and leave you with an illusion of who they are, which often ends up being so far from the truth.  That aside, meeting someone online is the same as meeting someone anywhere else. At a function, at work, at school, at the supermarket…though I believe, online is just a bit more superficial because unlike meeting 
with the person face to face and immediately seeing them, online we come up with our own imagination and more often than not, we become extremely
disappointed. These are my thoughts. To get a male perspective on this, please click HERE to read my colleague, Mitchell’s post.

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