Male Perspective On ‘Mama’s Boy’
One fine afternoon, I was having lunch with one of my lady friends when she said to me, “ I like talking to you because you don’t bring up your mum in our conversations as often as some of your friends do” Right there I understood what she was inferring to. I presume for our lady friends, the less we talk about our parents, particularly our mums, the more mature and more capable we appear.
I understand we love our mums, but we have got to know how to strike the balance. When a lady talks about her Dad, you get a glimpse of what standard you are up against. Particularly when she compares you against her Dad, she is gradually signing off and entrusting to you the responsibility to take care of her. The converse however is far from true.
In my opinion, I believe, ladies like to know you treat your mother honourably however, they also would love to imagine you wear the pants in the relationship. It’s scary to contemplate being engaged to a man who has his decisions made by his mother. Is it possible once you are married to that man, your mother in law will call all the shots in the union? I’m sure they often think that.
It takes a lot of guts for a woman to relinquish her guard, to entrust her life and her future to a man she hopes, will protect her, guide her, support her and encourage her to live up to her dreams. One of the ways to do that is to take responsibility for your own life. We thank our mums but you got to leave from beneath that umbrella and be a man on your own.
Apply the lessons they taught you. They laid out the foundation. Now lay up the blocks, build your own house. Make your own decisions and be responsible enough to deal with the consequences of your own choices. Beyond a certain age, leave home, and take on life and its challenges, head on. You are now expected to provide protection to another, give it your best shot. Until we speak again I am your host. Mitchell Odhiambo. Welcome to a man’s world. To get a female perspective on this subject, please click link to read my colleague Lillian’s views – http://goo.gl/Cul4Rt