Have you ever got to the point where all you know is that you are chasing something? You do not know what you are chasing or how long you will chase before you catch it, albeit you are not sure how far it is. Well, you are chasing the wind. Every morning you wake up and try to live another person’s life is a wasted day. Most of us live in a world where we want to please everybody and appease everything. It is not possible, not at all.
You are pursuing your career because your family wanted it, right? You are living their life not yours
You are in that relationship because all your friends are married, right? Same case with you
You dress in a particular way because your role model dresses the same, right? You are just a copycat
Talking of copycats, it is true that you can never be the best copy of another person. There will always be a more original copy of him. How long will you live in the shadow of the people you want to please?
It is time that you stopped all that and became you. It is time that you rediscovered your identity and lived a life, which you are more aware about.
A story is told of a pair of twins (2 sisters) who died recently while undergoing an operation to separate them as they were conjoined at the head since birth. The two sisters were 23 years old each. Before the operation, the doctors warned them that the operation was very risky and their chances of survival were minimal. The doctors explained that their brains were mature and such an operation. The doctors thought that they would not sign the consent forms, as they were now aware of the dangers of such an operation. However, to the surprise of the doctors, they signed the forms and aid that “It was better dying with an identity that living without one, always identified as two.”
None of the sisters wanted a life where they have to copy each other. They wanted an independent life with an identity. Though they died, they did so not copying anyone, but carrying strong personal brands.
This is the turn you need. Bend over the corner and notice that an independent you is better than chasing the wind.
By Douglas Logedi