There are situations in life that put us in a fix. We are screwed if we do and screwed if we don’t. A case in point that most personality types struggle with, is honesty.
You have bumped into your best friend’s partner out with another girl/man. To tell or not to tell? With men, this is a no brainer: Tell. With women, I understand this may not be so straightforward as there are concerns that you may hurt your friend’s feelings. In my opinion, go for the truth upfront.
Wounds from a friend can be trusted, but an enemy multiplies Kisses. Better to cause temporary pain than have to deal with accusations of betrayal once the truth comes out and you are found to have been complicit in the saga. There are always gentle ways of softening up the blow but let the truth be told.
Imagine you discover your friend’s wife/husband is cheating on them, what would you do?
Graduates have found themselves in a dilemma about such. You have gone for an interview and they ask you a question e.g. what are your weaknesses? Or job seekers being asked, why did you leave your last job? A case in which you become economical with the truth. You pick your words and choose what to disclose just to make sure you put your best foot forward. What, in your opinion is the right approach? What is the right thing to do?
I have a friend who found an error while cross examining a public contract and reported the misdemeanour. The contractors were very unhappy with her, tried bribing her off but she would have none of it. Since then, there have been deliberate efforts to sabotage her in the workplace. That notwithstanding, she has stood principled in her ways. I would like to congratulate her and people like her. Would you have been honest if in her shoes? Would you do whatever it takes or would you take the easy way out?
I would always advocate for honesty and integrity at all times. Until we speak again, I am your host Mitchell Odhiambo. Welcome to a man’s world To get a female perspective on this, read Mercy’s post HERE
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