Suffering is not holding you. You are holding suffering. When you become better in the art of letting sufferings go, then you will come to realize how unnecessary it was for you to drag those burdens around with you. You’ll see that no one else other than you was responsible. The truth is that existence wants your life to become a festival. – Osho
A story is told about a young boy who was playing with a very valuable vase. He put his hands into it but was then was unable to pull out his hand from the vase. Both his mother and father tried to help him withdraw his hand but this was in vain. They were thinking of breaking the vase when his father asked him, “Now, my son, try one more time. Open you hand and hold your fingers straight as you see me doing, and then pull.” To their astonishment the little fellow said, oh no, father. I can’t spread my fingers out like that because if I do, I will drop my penny.
Reading this, some of us may smile, probably shrug our shoulders or simply laugh and ignore. Smile if you can, laugh if you should but note that, millions of us are like the little boy. We are too busy holding on to the worthless penny that we cannot accept any form of change. We are stuck, clinging on and staring at the shut door that we become blind to the open window in the room. We should quit banging on the door; we should quit waiting and focus instead, on the window. Let go of the penny and focus on the valuable vase. Save the vase, for it is worth more than the mere penny.
We are the custodians of our lives and are thus, in the best position to control our thoughts and attitudes lest they control us. We should stop making excuses for anything that is making us suffer. Irrespective of how we coat a stone to look like a diamond, deep down inside “We” know it is a stone. Is it worth it?
It is not about convincing others, it is about the self. If it makes the self suffer, then sort it out. Quit making excuses for that failing business. Find another way to make it succeed or change it to what is going to work. If a relationship is not working, stop holding on and work on moving on. If friendship is dying and you’ve tried your very best, look forward. It doesn’t matter how badly hurt you are, work on forgiving, for it is after forgiveness that you will go forward. Don’t let hatred drag you backwards. The world doesn’t stop for our grief however bad the heart break may be.
Fear might be our road block but our determination will strengthen us through. Some of us fear leaving that frustrating payroll job because it is our source of livelihood. For others, we fear establishing that business because it will drain us and probably render us bankrupt. Those in bad relationships, for fear of being lonely, choose to hold on and stay. Is there an easy way to do anything? Until when will we give excuses? “No matter how thin you slice it, there are always two sides” – Baruch Spinoza
We should learn to let go. Let go for the sake of tomorrow. Let go not because you don’t want it, but because it is the best choice. Let go not because we regret the past but rather, because we need to outgrow it and live for the future. Just surrender and let it go! Click HERE to read more posts by Gertrude.