I was having a conversation earlier this year with colleagues of mine and the men in the group were curious about something; how do you talk to a woman every day of the week? I mean how do you even do that? The ladies looked at us in utter disbelief.
Fast forward, and one of the friends got engaged 6 months later and he shares a different account today; that having a woman in your life is a full time job. Unlike us men who can speak once a month, twice a year and be totally fine with this, in a relationship with a woman, you have to engage almost always on a daily basis. In fact, in a woman to woman friendship, the frequency of conversation I understand, is far higher than us men.
A woman will want to know how your day was and my friends, let me tell you for free, she will need more content than a simple response like “Great”. Try to give her at least more than four words in response. She will appreciate this and the more you make conversation, the more you water the garden in her heart. As is commonly said, communication is the lifeblood in any relationship. Denying a woman conversation is tormenting her and exposing her to drought. We can do better. Like most relationships begin at “I’d like to talk to you about how you make me feel” and end at “We need to talk” no matter how you look at it, conversation (or rather, lack of it), has played a part.
However, I appreciate that things are different in times of offence; when offended, women don’t speak to each other. How true is this ladies? Between a man and a woman, I see it; when the lady is angry, her body language says it all, but the man is left guessing about what could have happened? He takes a gamble and apologizes for nearly anything he can recollect (lol). Men. I know a secret; food. When unsure, just get her food: chocolate, ice-cream, anything edible. It works like magic.
Anyway, until we speak again, I am your host Mitchell Odhiambo. Welcome to a man’s world. To get a female perspective on this, please read my colleague Mercy’s post HERE