WHERE DO WE DRAW THE BOUNDARY LINES?
Living in a different era from our predecessors, perception has it that we have grown lax on the moral standards we uphold, what passed yesterday as abominable, airs freely today on main stream media. Do we have absolutes on morality or is this a subjective argument? Putting the present day man into perspective, I’d like to delve into the subject line; where does he draw the boundary line with society and with his woman?
Could he let you have free access to his mobile phone; answer his calls, reply to his text messages, and go through his gallery? Could you spend the night at his place, take a shower at his house? Take a minute, think about it. The standards are definitely different once you are married. That notwithstanding, the level of openness varies by individual.
Is she allowed to go swimming with other men, post happy photos with your male friends while you are seated in the office balancing those books? Do you trust her enough? Is that a Yes I heard or is this an absolute No from you? Quite the subject I can imagine and I accept. Better to make a decision on a case by case analysis.
That being so, there are areas of synergy we find agreeable as acceptable lines and common ground. For example, if a man grabs you by your waist in public, right there he is declaring to the universe; “Hey y’all she’s my queen, don’t even think about checking her out.” And we expect it to be so. No other man is allowed to navigate his way around that.
Until we speak again, I am your host Mitchell Odhiambo. Welcome to a man’s world. To get a female perspective, please click HERE to read my colleague Lillian’s post