On ‘Rebound Relationships’
I have seen it recur time and time again. When a man breaks up with a woman, he looks for the next best alternative almost immediately to fill the void that was created.Similar features, similar personality, almost a clone of the woman he loved. Bouncing back in a classic fashion you think? Wrong.
Human nature is designed in a way, we hate to hit the floor. Whenever calamity strikes we make desperate attempts to cling on to whatever we can and to reassure oneself we are not so badly off. Unfortunately, whenever relationships break, we look for rebounds, to the detriment of the other party. Not because we love them but because we cannot stand being alone.
I am sure we all know of someone whose soul is fragmented into little tiny pieces because they have lived from one rebound to the next. Their social media pages are marred with sentiments on how all men are the same, love is dead & their playlist takes it a notch higher with sad songs e.g. ”If love so nice, tell me why it hurts so bad”
In my opinion, once a relationship between a man and a woman is brought to a halt, it is important that they both take some time off to heal and after that, to reassess the condition of their hearts before they board a different vehicle that could pretty much end up as a rollercoaster.
A relationship thrives when built on the right foundation and it takes commitment and understanding to make it happen. I wouldn’t advocate for instant breakups and a soul mate search in hope you will bump into the right one. In cases like this, I would administer an adage “prevention is better than cure” Take your time and get into a relationship when you are convinced you are ready, assess who is a good fit for you and commit yourself to make it work.
You will have rosy days, at times you will have to weather the storm but for what its worth, you got to pay the price.
Until we speak again, I am your host Mitchell Odhiambo. Welcome to a man’s world. To get a female perspective on this, click HERE to read my colleague Lillian’s views.