MALE PERSPECTIVE By Mitchell Odhiambo ‘On Toxic Relationships’
A friend of mine fell in love with a Nigerian. This is the one relationship I don’t get at all. She always complains that they fight more than they have fun; so here I am wondering “Why are you still in there girl? Run for your life! “
Then she said it. I’ll break up with him beginning of 2016 before my birthday (her birthday is on January 7th). I was sighing with relief until she texted me a week later. I can’t break up with him, he promised me a jeep for my birthday.
This has now got me wondering; what’s up with this girl? What doesn’t she get? How long will she believe his lies? Fast forward to her birthday, he organizes a party at his house in Lavington (to which he bought no car) and invites the girlfriend with her friends over. So excited, the girl brings along her brother and six of her friends. At about 6pm in the evening, he toxic man decides to extend the party until morning.
He dials all the ladies’ parents and asks for their permission, guaranteeing their daughter’s safety, to which the parents consent. At about 9pm, toxic man’s friend comes over and they start conversing in Igbo, even though he has forbidden the Kenyans from speaking Kiswahili. There was a revolt at this. One thing led to another and toxic man was irked.
He quietly left for his room and ordered an Uber which arrived but was unattended for 10 minutes. What a waste of time, the driver drove off. Alas! No one picked the signal. Half an hour later, toxic man came out of his room, boiling with rage and chased everyone out of his house except for his Nigerian friend. He threw the glasses around, spilled the drinks in the house and kicked them all out.
What shame. Who kicks his girlfriend out of the house in front of her friends and even chases away his potential future brother in law? How do you do that? You reassure parents of their daughters’ safety then kick them out in the dark. What manner of a man is that?
Next day, this girl went over to his place, cleaned the house up, just to keep the relationship alive. I respect my friend but what she did is just absurd; despite all the voices trying to talk sense in to her. I guess for some people love empties their medulla oblongata. So, until we speak again, I am your host. Mitchell Odhiambo. Welcome to a man’s world. To get a female perspective on this, please CLICK HERE to read the views of my colleague, Lillian.