MALE PERSPECTIVE By Mitchell Odhiambo – Should a woman say Yes on her first date?

Should a woman say Yes on her first date? For a long time now my heart has been consumed with the "never...

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Should a woman say Yes on her first date?

For a long time now my heart has been consumed with the “never give up” attitude displayed by some of the disruptive brands in the region.

I recently came across a Coca-Cola billboard with a very jovial gentleman embracing a woman and beside the couple, a statement that read “I asked her out 32 times before she said Yes”  Aghast!! Tonnes of respect to the coke side of life. I like to think of myself as a Safaricom champ, make three wrong pin entries with the sim card and it’s game over, in essence ask her out thrice, if she keeps saying No, that’s it. Try your luck elsewhere.

Anyway, on to the real question, should a woman say yes on her first date? What do you think? In my opinion, I think gentlemen enjoy the thrill of the chase as much as our fellow women do. There is nothing that turns off a man’s interest as quickly as a woman that gives in to his advances on the first date.

A day out for us is an expression of interest, an opportunity to get to know you, not to wedlock you. This could be extremely difficult for new dates to swallow because they are still in the blind phase of their relationship, where everything else ceases to exist apart from their partner. The delusion in this phase is heavy, almost a concoction.

Research suggests that 70% of young people have absolutely no idea what they are doing while picking a partner until their third year of marriage. With statistics like this, it is imperative to employ wisdom for a relationship from the early stages. Romance is like wild fire, it could either warm the heart or burn down the entire house.

The relationship between romance and wisdom is akin to that of the kite and the string that holds it. The Kite wishes to fly high throwing caution to the wind (like romance) but wisdom is the string that holds it firm and keeps it suspended against the obstacles. The tension is real but necessary. Without the wisdom to hold the kite to the ground, the kite would come down crashing in great speed.

As for my tip, I would say, get to know each other first, build a friendship. Hopefully it will gel into a beautiful union in the not too distant future.

Until we speak again, I am your host. Mitchell Odhiambo. Welcome to a man’s world. To get a female perspective on this, please click link to view my colleague Lillian’s views –

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