FEMALE PERSPECTIVE ON HOLDING HANDS By Beryl Amatta

During the Easter weekend I was walking with a friend one afternoon and...


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Beryl AmattaDuring the Easter weekend I was walking with a friend one afternoon and in  front of us were a young man and lady who we assumed were a couple because of the way they looked at each other and how they were slow in their stroll (savouring the momentJ). Just before we stopped looking at them to continue with our conversation, we saw the man move his hand to hold the lady’s hand and in a split second, the lady quickly removed her hand and looked around to check if anyone had seen him do that. That is how a debate between my friend and I began: how do ladies perceive holding hands in public?

First and foremost, holding hands in public depends on the stage of the relationship. At the early stages like on the first date, it may be perceived by the lady to be  too fast a move given she is only starting to know him. Additionally, when the couple is just starting out, the lady has not yet introduced the guy to her close friends or her family members. Therefore, being seen holding hands in town for her would be a no-no, for you just don’t know who is watching! Lol.

On the other hand, as the relationship develops, the couple becomes freer and more comfortable with one another and it is literally them against the world. Holding hands in public becomes the norm and they are proud to show all and sundry how much they love and care about each other.

It is also important to note that sometimes it all depends on the lady’s beliefs and principles. A girl may not believe in Public Display of Affection (PDA) and would therefore prefer keeping her relationship private and only open to close family and friends. Others would prefer holding hands in the evening to doing it in broad daylight. It is more romantic in the evening maybe?

In a nutshell, it all boils down to comfort. That is, whether the lady is comfortable with the two of you being seen together by everyone and comfortable with expressing affection in public. So men, the next time you are thinking of holding her hand in public, make sure that she is comfortable with it.

Always a delight sharing insights on a lady’s world, Warm regards, Beryl Amatta    To get a male perspective on this, please click link to read my colleague Mitch’s perspective –  http://goo.gl/g8Gj5L  

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