FEMALE PERSPECTIVE By Beryl Amatta
One day I was talking to a friend after she had just gotten back from a first date and after saying all the nice things about the guy, she suddenly paused and said “… but he is not a gentleman.” On imploring why she replied, “He walked through the door before me and he let me walk on the side of the road on our way to ice cream.”
From this conversation, it was evident that these small gestures by gentlemen, do matter to many ladies.
I believe it was Maya Angelou who said: “People may forget all the things that you say to them but they will never forget how you made them feel.” This means that in as much as ladies may not say it, they always expect to be treated like a queen. It is not to say that pulling out a chair or opening the car door for her are the only ways in which a gent can make a lady feel special. The list is inexhaustible because different ladies love different things. There are ladies who find such chivalrous gestures to be overrated and therefore when a man does them they think that he is not being himself. Therefore men you need to know your lady before you start pulling some moves.
Unfortunately if it is a first date where you definitely don’t know the girl, you have no option but to take the risk and be chivalrous. Besides, is it not said that if you don’t risk you rust? Below are some tips I would like to share with you:
1. Arrive early so that you can welcome her when she arrives.
2. Compliment her on her outfit (because picking out that dress wasn’t easy!)
3. Open the door for her and let her walk in and out of the restaurant first. This will surely leave a good impression of you in her mind.
My opinion is, chivalry is not dead especially to ladies on the receiving end!
Always a pleasure sharing ideas on a lady’s world. From Beryl Amatta. To get a male perspective on this, please click link below to read my colleague Mitch’s perspective – http://goo.gl/i4JUEb