“I don’t feel like myself anymore, I hate myself, I hate my body, I no longer enjoy eating or dressing up! I don’t even feel like going out” she cries.
“Why should I work hard anyway, is it even worth it? My own family does not appreciate the sacrifices I make, to provide. My boss does not see the efforts I put into the work hours. I am just tired,” he shakes his head in deep sorrow.
“ I hate this child! Why did I even have her, now look at my life? I am no longer happy, I can’t enjoy life anymore, sometimes I wish I could do away with this child,” she snaps in annoyance.
“My relationship is a big mess! I don’t know what to do, I am deeply hurt but I can’t leave. What will people say and yet we look so perfect and happy together? How will I start again?” the lover says in tears.
This is the harsh reality of what many of us live with. So many of our friends and family are drowning in depression, not knowing where to turn to. Many feel like no one understands them, and wishing that they could just get away from this world in every way possible. From sleepless nights to long days with little concentration, the pain is real.
Depression has pushed a lot of people to commit suicide. Sadly most of us realize this when it’s too late, that someone was suffering from depression, and then we ask, “But they looked okay and life was going on fine, what would make them commit suicide?” But how would you know when all you saw was the glam they portrayed outwardly? How would you know when the friendship was just based on having good times without asking the deep questions?
When did you last check on that friend or family member that has gone silent and you no longer know what is going on? When did you last ask him to meet up for a boys night out and the asked him how he was doing? Have you called her lately and had a long talk about how she is fairing and the frustrations of life?
Depression is a painful world to be in. It’s a lonely world full of negative thoughts towards yourself and towards life. But the most beautiful part of it all, is that it takes a caring heart and true love to pull you out from the sunken hole and remind you of your worth.
Smile at someone today, you never know what they are going through. Call a friend you haven’t talked to in a long time. Remind someone about how much they are worth. You never know how much impact this might have. To get a male perspective on this, please read Mitchell’s posts HERE