Whether you are married to your loved one, courting one or planning to become engaged to someone, there are essential things you need to know that may make your stay with each other glorious and much less abrasive.
One of the Key things you need to pay attention to is what makes your partner angry/upset and how do they respond when they are angry. There is no problem when you disagree on certain issues, what is important though is whether you listen to one another and learn from the cues. What is it that makes them or you angry and how best could you both approach it?
A different issue would be the background they come from. A lot of the traits we carry and behaviour we display have often been shaped from the family we emanate from and the society we grew up in. When you think about it, you will realize the values we esteem are shaped by the upbringing we have had. Learning about your partner’s background will help you appreciate them and get a glimpse on what warrants confrontation and what requires encouragement and support
You would also need to know how you are perceived in your partner’s eyes. A lot of tensions and turmoil could result if you imagine you are an attentive listener and yet your partner believes you don’t listen to them; hence they feel you don’t value their feelings or dreams. Terrible
On that front, it is imperative that you also learn your partner’s love language. You could be busy expressing your love in your love language, yet your partner is not responding to your charms because they understand love in a different language. They include time, touch, words of affirmation, acts of service and gifts. Which is more important to you? And which is your partner’s? Find that out and communicate that in no uncertain terms. Until we meet again, I am your host Mitchell Odhiambo. Welcome to a man’s world. To get a female perspective on this, please read Mercy’s post HERE