So I once had a friend who liked me a lot although I was not aware of it at that time and only figured this out later. She was a great friend until I introduced her to my girlfriend and that’s when things between us started going downhill pretty fast.
For starters, let me first admit that men are often blind. I mean how can a girl like you and you have no idea at all? Yet as soon as my girlfriend met her, she sensed that something was out of place with this friend of ours. You guessed right, I hadn’t figured this out at the time until later when things got out of hand.
After the first meet up between this friend of ours and my girlfriend, next thing I know, my girlfriend is facing defamations and false accusations for doing things she had not done. Alas. So I then shut down the flames and brushed the issue aside, while still remaining as clueless as a man could possibly be.
A few months later, my girlfriend and our friend happened to bump into one another at a location out of town, for the weekend. So our friend joins the party later and says hello to everyone except my girlfriend and immediately, my girlfriend figures out that this situation is now out of control. My girlfriend was puzzled because we did not have anything against her so why would she behave this way?
Our friend would roll her eyes whenever my girlfriend attempted to make amends with her and soon my girlfriend gave up trying. The unfortunate thing for our friend was, my girl is a natural sanguine person and a gifted leader so by default, all her peers sat around her for conversation and our friend was left alone in the wilderness grasping at straws; unable to join everyone for whatever reason. Jealousy perhaps; insecurity maybe, but what kind of love is this?
Anger is cruel and fury overwhelming but who can stand before jealousy? Jealousy arouses a man’s fury and he will show no mercy when it is time to take revenge. When your love for someone/thing turns inward especially when filled with insecurities, you could rage on and on to your own detriment. Be quick to forgive and slow to anger. Make it your lead life ambition to lead a quiet life, to mind your own business, and to be at peace with everyone as far as it depends on you. It may just reward you with a harmonious living. Until we speak again, I am your host Mitchell Odhiambo. Welcome to a man’s world. To get a female perspective on Jelousy, Love or Insecurity, click HERE to read Mercy’s post.