Do you agree with the saying that “Love is blind?”
A story is told about a man who married a beautiful girl. He loved her very much. One day she developed skin disease and slowly she started to lose her beauty. It so happened that her husband then left for a tour. While returning, he had an accident and lost his eyesight. However, their marriage continued as usual. But as the days passed, she lost her beauty gradually. Her blind husband was not aware of this and there was not change in their marriage. He continued to love her and she also loved him very much.
One day she died. Her death brought him great sorrow. He finished all her last rites and wanted to leave town. A man from behind called out to him and said,” now how will you be able to walk all alone? All these days your wife used to help you.”
He replied,” I am not blind. I was acting, because if she knew l could see her ugliness it would have pained her more than her disease. So I pretended to be blind. She was a very good wife. I only wanted to keep her happy.”
February is otherwise known as the ‘month of love’, but what exactly does true love mean?
One definition of true love is ACTING BLIND to the other person’s weaknesses, this is especially true if there is nothing that can be done about the situation. From the story, the husband acted blind, because he knew his wife would become ‘insecure’ about her beauty. And it truly worked! His wife must have died a peaceful death knowing that her husband still found her beautiful as before and in actual act, their marriage never changed. The wife felt helpful by helping out her ‘blind’ husband.
In our friendships, in our relationships, in our marriages, there are some things we notice in the other person that we may not love. Either things that were there from the on-set or have gradually changed along the way and we know there is no solution to it.What should we do? Shall we expose it and rub it in every time there is an argument just to show how ‘patient and loving’ we have been all along?
No, I believe that “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, and it keeps no records of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always hopes, always trusts, and always perseveres”.
I am not advocating for ‘unwise tolerance’, but there are some things where we need ‘blind wisdom’. It will definitely come in handy in some situations. With best wishes, Mercy Karumba
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